When people make statements like “constantly be around people that inspire you”, sometimes, I’m tempted to agree because there’s an element of truth in the statement but other times I don’t agree.
Here’s why; Although, I love intellectual discussions. Discussions that broaden my scope about life, conversations on books, career, our country, the world at large, futuristic plans, tech, media, faith and lots more but sometimes, intellectual discussions can be draining and exhausting. One shouldn’t spend his whole life in seriousness.
There are a couple of times when I want to be with people who don’t have too much intellectual expectations from me or who have such expectations but know that there’s that point where we all need to be human. We can both lay our hearts bare and just talk. Talk about our struggles with sex, love, life, faith, adulthood and food. Entertain friendly talks, argue and even make jest of each other. Be open about our flaws. Make funny jokes about ourselves and be open enough to be vulnerable. A place where I can be foolish and wise at the same time. I don’t want to have to visit a friend and carry my brain along every single time. Maybe not literally, but I hope you get my point of view.
Lately, I’ve been investing more in these kind of relationships. Those who really understand what it is to live in an environment with culture of love, joy and peace. Personally, I spend long hours in isolation trying to read, improve myself, be intellectual, research, generate content and do loads of serious stuff. I can’t be in the midst of my friends and still be in the battle of whose life is the most motivational or who can drop the deepest line. In fact, research has proven that to be creative, you need to be less serious with things and enjoy the freedom, peace and joy that comes with play.
It’s the beginning of a new month, another half of the year has begun already. You might want to take some time out to rewind. Take time out to visit people and don’t bring up all those heavy topics. Ask them of their girlfriends / boyfriends. Tell tales of your last awkward moment and let them tell theirs too. Spend nights out at a friends place. If possible, ban yourselves from social media during the time you spend together.
Don’t be tempted to talk about Nigeria. Don’t!
Do this consistently and see how “saner” you’d become. Too much intellect can make you insane. At least, for those that are like me.
Peace out ??