Stop being so serious

Stop being so serious
July 1, 2017 Bolu Akindele

When people make statements like “constantly be around people that inspire you”, sometimes, I’m tempted to agree because there’s an element of truth in the statement but other times I don’t agree.

Here’s why; Although, I love intellectual discussions. Discussions that broaden my scope about life, conversations on books, career, our country, the world at large, futuristic plans, tech, media, faith and lots more but sometimes, intellectual discussions can be draining and exhausting. One shouldn’t spend his whole life in seriousness.

There are a couple of times when I want to be with people who don’t have too much intellectual expectations from me or who have such expectations but know that there’s that point where we all need to be human. We can both lay our hearts bare and just talk. Talk about our struggles with sex, love, life, faith, adulthood and food. Entertain friendly talks, argue and even make jest of each other. Be open about our flaws. Make funny jokes about ourselves and be open enough to be vulnerable. A place where I can be foolish and wise at the same time. I don’t want to have to visit a friend and carry my brain along every single time. Maybe not literally, but I hope you get my point of view.

Lately, I’ve been investing more in these kind of relationships. Those who really understand what it is to live in an environment with culture of love, joy and peace. Personally, I spend long hours in isolation trying to read, improve myself, be intellectual, research, generate content and do loads of serious stuff. I can’t be in the midst of my friends and still be in the battle of whose life is the most motivational or who can drop the deepest line. In fact, research has proven that to be creative, you need to be less serious with things and enjoy the freedom, peace and joy that comes with play.

It’s the beginning of a new month, another half of the year has begun already. You might want to take some time out to rewind. Take time out to visit people and don’t bring up all those heavy topics. Ask them of their girlfriends / boyfriends. Tell tales of your last awkward moment and let them tell theirs too. Spend nights out at a friends place. If possible, ban yourselves from social media during the time you spend together.

Don’t be tempted to talk about Nigeria. Don’t!

Do this consistently and see how “saner” you’d become. Too much intellect can make you insane. At least, for those that are like me.

Peace out ??


  1. Tobi 2 years ago

    Great stuff!

    • Bolu Akindele 2 years ago

      Thank you Tobi

  2. I think I fit into the almost always serious category.
    It is time to get less serious and enjoy life

    • Bolu Akindele 2 years ago

      Thanks so much, Nike for dropping by. I’m grateful and also happy that the article blessed you

  3. Emeka 2 years ago

    Really cool bro! I’m glad I read this!

    • Bolu Akindele 2 years ago

      Thanks so much Emeka for reading and dropping a comment. I’m glad that this piece blessed you

  4. I’m not always serious anyway. Beautiful write-up

    • Bolu Akindele 2 years ago

      Thank you

  5. Dominus 2 years ago

    always blowing my mind

    • Bolu Akindele 2 years ago

      Thanks bro. I’m grateful

  6. Temiloluwa 2 years ago

    Beautiful piece Bolu!
    Bless you bro?

    • Bolu Akindele 2 years ago

      Amen. Thank you Temi

  7. Mae 1 year ago

    Riiight. I even applied a biblical scripture to justify the sloughing off of “unserious” friends. The whole move with a wise crowd and be wise, move with a foolish one and find yourself being a victim to folly…. Don’t quote me. Laughter over trivial things wouldn’t hurt. It’s still laughter anyway.

    • Bolu Akindele 1 year ago

      That’s the point. Laughing over trivial things wouldn’t hurt. Thanks for reading!

  8. Debbie 1 year ago

    This is what I literally want. I need space to be me without people expecting you to be smart all the time.

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